I’ve been trying to figure out if I can change my Facebook settings so I no longer get notifications when someone “likes” a photo or link or status update I’ve posted.
So far, no luck.
Last week, Liesl and I watched the Frontline documentary, “Generation Like,” and it made me want to disconnect from “like” notifications even more.
Here’s the deal. When I see the little white number in the red circle on my phone, I want real interaction with you. When the Facebook tab on my laptop toolbar shows a number in parentheses, I’m hoping you’ve got something to say.
“Liking” has come to mean so many things on Facebook. It’s a nod. It’s a smile. It’s a gentle hand on my shoulder. It’s an acknowledgment that you’ve noticed.
But it’s silent. It’s quick and easy. And it makes me feel like an approval junkie when I get excited by a “like” count.
So please don’t like me. Not unless you really, really like my photo, my link, my status update. And even then, would it be so much harder to type a few words?
Because I’m tired of the drive-by nod, the distracted smile, the easy comfort, the split-second attention.
Let’s be real friends to each other, instead of being stretched thin, “like butter scraped over too much bread.”
The “like”habit is hard to break, but I want to work on it. How about you?